Aia kekahi poʻe i manaʻoʻiʻoʻia he mau hoaaloha ka lālā o ka mea ikaika a me ka nāwaliwali, akā, inā e pili like lākou i nā pono a me nā pahuhopu . Akā, i ka manaʻo o ka hapanui,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me kahi kaikamahine he mea hikiʻole ke hana, no ka hopena o ke aloha a me ke aloha,ʻo kahi kanaka e noho me ka manaʻoʻole a me ka naʻauʻeha. Eʻikeʻia inā paha he mau hoaaloha maikaʻiʻole nā kānaka o ka wahine'ē aʻe me ka manaʻoʻole o ka pilina aloha, aʻo ka pilina o ke kaikamahine a me ke keiki he mea palekana loa.
Pane 1.ʻAʻohe pili
Ma keʻano'ōpiopio, heʻano likeʻole ke ola, ua maʻalahi nā mea a pau a maopopo i ka hoaaloha, aʻo ka hoaaloha he hoaaloha, aʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo i ke 'ano male. Akā, e ulu ana, e lilo ana ke ao holoʻokoʻa iʻoi aku ka paʻakikī, aʻo ka mea pili,ʻo ka pilina me ka wahine'ē,ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻalahi. No laila, ma keʻano he kaulike, pili i waena o ka wahine a me ke kāne kekahi mau hanana e ulu nei:
- ʻO ke aloha kaiaulu . ʻO ka pilina o ke kāne a me ke kaikamahine kekahi mea pili i nā hana pili like, nā mea nui a me nā hana. Ma ka noho mauʻana, hoʻomaka ka poʻe e aloha i kekahi i kekahi, a lilo ia i aloha. Ma ke ala,ʻo ka mare ma waena o nā hoaaloha mua loa, ikaika loa a hauʻoli hoʻi, no ka mea,ʻaʻole i hoʻoweliweliʻia kekahiʻohana i ka hakakā no ke kuhihewa.
- ʻO ka naʻauʻeha . ʻO kekahi o nā hoaaloha ke aloha nei i ke aloha, aʻaʻoleʻike kekahi i kona mau manaʻo. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole e lōʻihi kēia hoaaloha, no ka mea, he mea paʻakikī ke aloha i kahi mea iʻike iā ia he hoaaloha wale nō ia. ʻO ka meaʻoi aku paha, inā he hapa lua ka mea i alohaʻia e ka mea i alohaʻia, aʻo ia hoʻi e haʻi aku ai, no ka mea he hoaalohaʻoe. A laila,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻopauʻana i ka pilina ma mua o ka hoʻokaumahaʻana i kaʻeha a me kaʻeha ma luna ou, no kaʻikeʻole i ke aloha o ka mea aloha iāʻoe. Hiki iāʻoe ke hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo no kaʻikeʻana i kāu hana, a iʻole hiki iāʻoe ke haʻalele wale me ka weheʻoleʻia o ka'ōlelo, no ka meaʻaʻole e hopohopo i ka hoaalohaʻana mai kekahi hoa aku.
Ke manaʻo 2. Aia ka hoaaloha
Hiki keʻikeʻia kekahi kaikamahine a me kekahi keikikāne mai ka manawa o ke aʻoʻana ma ke kula a iʻole i kahi kula papa, a laila, he mea kūpono loa e hui pūʻia kēia poʻe e ka pilina ikaika. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, no ka nui o nā makahiki, ua like lākou me kaʻohana, aneane hiki i nā kānaka a pau keʻike i kekahi i kekahi, hiki iā lākou ke hilinaʻi i ko lākou mau mea huna, e noi aku i ka'ōlelo aʻo, me ka makaʻu ole i ke kumakaia, ka manaʻo a me ka maʻaʻole.
ʻO ka hoaaloha me kahi hoaaloha mua
Ua maopopo i kekahi mau kaikamahine he kanaka i mua i kēia manawa e lilo i hoaaloha maikaʻi loa. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻohe mea e hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo iāʻoe e like me ke kanaka āu i noho pū ai, ka meaʻike i kāu mau makemake, nā meaʻono, nā koho. Aʻo ka meaʻoiaʻiʻo, ma hope o ka haʻaleleʻana, ua noho mau nā hoaaloha mua i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi,ʻoiai inā ua lōʻihi ka manawa o ka pilina a ua maʻa nā kānaka i kekahi.
Inā makemakeʻoe i ke kanaka mua e noho i kou hoaaloha, ponoʻoe e kali iki. ʻAʻole pono ka mea nāna i hoʻokumu i ka māhelehele, akā inā ma kekahi hihia he mea pono ka halaʻana o kekahi manawa mai ka manawa o ka pilina piliʻana, no ka mea e hoʻonalili ai nā manaʻo a me ka hōʻino, inā
Eia nō naʻe, he mau pōpilikia ka pilinaʻana, no ka mea,ʻo ka hapalua o ka hapalua,ʻaʻole pahaʻoe eʻae i kēia mau pili, a laila he mau'ōlelo hōʻeuʻeu, hae, a me ke kohoʻana.
Eia pū,ʻo ka pilina me ke kanaka hiki ke hoʻoulu i nā manaʻo kahiko a e loaʻa hou iāʻoe kahi moʻolelo, akā,ʻo ka hopena, e hoʻopauʻia kaʻano like me ia i ka wā ma mua.
No laila, ma mua o ka hoʻoholoʻana i ka pilina me kekahi wahine aloha mua, pono e noʻonoʻo inā ponoʻoe i kēia pilina.