ʻO ka hoʻonohonohoʻana i kahi ola pilikino no ke kaikamahine he mea pilikia wale nō ia. ʻAʻole lawa i ka hālāwaiʻana me kekahi kanaka'ōpio kūpono, makemakeʻo ia e hoihoi, a makemake. A ma hope paha, hiki paha i kahi kaikamahine ke hoʻomaka eʻimi i ka pane i ka nīnau: pehea e hiki ai iāʻoe ke hōʻoia i kou aloha i kahi kanaka.
Peheaʻoe e hōʻoia ai i ke kanaka?
E hōʻoia i ke kanaka āu i aloha iā ia hiki iāʻoe ke hana i nā mea, e like me keʻano he mau kaikamāhine wiwoʻole, nā mea punahele e hoʻokipa iā ia iho i ka lā a hāʻawi iā lākou i nā hōʻailona. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, he hōʻeha kēia i nā kuleana kāne o ka wahine, aʻaʻole pono i nā kaikamāhine a pau, akā inā he kūpono loa ke kanaka,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke kali e kono iā ia.
ʻAʻole nā kaikamāhine wiwoʻole e hōʻike i ko lākou manaʻo, hiki iāʻoe ke aʻo e hōʻike nui i ka mea o ke aloha. ʻOiaiʻo kaʻoihana nui a ke kanaka ka hana hewa, hiki i kahi kaikamahine ke hōʻike i kona mau manaʻo me ke aloha a me ka mālama. Inā loaʻa kahi manawa, hiki ke mālamaʻia kahi mea i alohaʻia me nā meaʻono o kāna hana pono'īʻana, e kipaʻana i ka maʻi, eʻoluʻolu i nā meaʻoluʻolu maikaʻi. ʻO kēia mau hiʻohiʻona liʻiliʻi o ka nānā me ka'ōleloʻoleʻole i nā'ōlelo e haʻi i ke kanaka e pili ana i nā manaʻo i loaʻa iā lākou.
Pehea e hōʻoia ai i kou aloha i ke kanaka mai kahi mamao mai?
Inā paha ua lōʻihi ka manaʻo o nā manaʻo hohonu, hiki iāʻoe ke hōʻoia i kou aloha iā ia. ʻO ka hōʻailona mua loa. Inā he nui nā hoahele e pili ana iā ia, hiki i ke kanaka keʻike i kaʻikeʻoleʻana o ke kaikamahine i kona heleʻana, aʻo ia mau mea e hōʻikeʻia e kona mau hoaaloha a me kona mau hoaaloha. No laila, inā makemake kekahi kaikamahine e hōʻike i kona aloha a me konaʻoiaʻiʻo, ponoʻo ia e hana i ke kolohe.
ʻO kaʻaoʻaoʻelua - e nānā mau loa i ka hana a kahi mea aloha, konaʻano , a pēlā aku. Nui nā ala e kamaʻilio ai i kēia mau lā, no laila ma kahi lōʻihi loa, hiki iāʻoe ke kamaʻilio aʻike kekahi i kekahi.
Aʻo ka hopena hope loa no nā kaikamāhine e makemake e aʻo i ka pehea e ho'āʻo ai i ko lākou aloha i ke kanaka - mai hoʻopoina i keʻano o ke kūlike. ʻAʻole e hoʻonāukiuki wale ke kaikamahine i ka palekana o ka wahine, akā e kipaku iā ia. ʻAʻole ke aloha i ka mahalo iā ia iho.