No ka nui o ka makemake o kona makuahine i kāna pēpē, no ka makemakeʻo ia e noho me ia i nā manawa a pau a liloʻo ia i hoaaloha maikaʻi nona, i loko o kona naʻau uaʻikeʻo iaʻaʻole ka mea aloha i nā mākua, makemake nā keiki i nā hoa. ʻO ka hoʻaloha no nā keiki he meaʻokoʻa wale nō kaʻike mua o ka pilina pili aloha. ʻOiai e pili ana i nā pilina pilikino, aʻo ka'ōpiopio e kamaʻilio me nā poʻe'ē aʻe i ka wāwae like, e hakakā i kona pono pono'ī, e mahalo i ka manaʻo o nā poʻe'ē aʻe, e kōkua, e kala mai a nonoi aku no ka kalaʻana, e noʻonoʻo a mālama. Hoʻomaopopo nā kānaka hoʻonaʻauao i ka hopena o ka pilina a ke keiki me kona mau hoaaloha, ma muli o ka nui. Ināʻaʻole hiki i kahi keiki ke loaʻa aku i nā hoaaloha, a laila,ʻaʻole e hiki iā ia keʻae i ka pae holoʻokoʻa o nā pilina kanaka, he honua nui nui, he mea pohihihi piha i nā mea hilahila, fictions, games, raptures and quarrels, e mau loa ana "no ka wā pauʻole."
Ua maʻalahi nā rula o ke aloha no nā keiki - i ka wā'ōpiopio, koho nā keiki i nā hoa i loko o ka naʻau, e like me keʻano "likeʻole -ʻaʻole makemake". Kūʻai kekahi mau keiki e hālāwai me nā mea hou iʻikeʻia a loaʻa ka hauʻoli i kekahi hui e lilo koke i mea pono'ī no lākou. E loaʻa koke iā lākou nā hoaaloha-hoa. A pehea hoʻi inā he wahi hilahila ke keiki aʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke loaʻa nā hoaaloha? He aha inā ināʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻike i keʻano o ka hoaaloha? Inā loaʻaʻole ke kōkua a ka makua i kēia hihia,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke hana.
Pehea e aʻo ai i kahi keiki e lilo i mau hoaaloha?
- Hoʻomaka kēlā me kēia aloha ma ka pilina. ʻO ka manawa pinepineʻole ka keiki e makemake e lilo i mau hoaaloha, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻike i keʻano eʻike ai. E aʻo i kāu keiki i kēiaʻoihana, e pāʻani me kāna punahele punahele i nā hanana o ka pilina ma nāʻano likeʻole. E wehewehe i ka nui o ka hilinaʻi a me ka hiʻohiʻona, no laila, ke hālāwaiʻoe meʻoe,ʻaʻole hiki ke lilo i poho a hulu. A no laila,ʻaʻole kūpono ka hopohopoʻole, inā no ka paneʻana i ka hāʻawiʻana eʻike me ka hōʻoleʻana, ponoʻoe e ho'āʻo hou ma hope iki.
- Hōʻike i ke keiki i ka piha a me ka launa o nā pilina aloha e like me nā hiʻohiʻona - e haʻi e pili ana i nā hoaaloha o kou wā'ōpio, e pili ana i nā pāʻani āu i pāʻani ai, peheaʻoe e hoʻolimalima ai i kahi manawa, nā mea hilahila i loaʻa iāʻoe, peheaʻoe e hakakā a hoʻolauleʻa. E kūkā kamaʻilio iā ia i ka pili o ka hoaaloha, nā mea waiwai i nā keiki a me nā mākua.
- ʻO ke kumu pahaʻaʻohe mea e pili ana i kahi keiki i hūnāʻia ma kaʻoiaʻiʻo e lili nuiʻo ia i kāna mau pāʻani aʻaʻoleʻo ia e pili pū me kekahi. E kūkākūkā me ka pēpē, e wehewehe iā iaʻaʻole pono e lawe i nā mea makemake punahele no ka hele wāwae, akāʻo nā mea āu e pono e pāʻani ai no nā keiki'ē aʻe. E kono i ke keiki e hana i nā keiki'ē aʻe me nā hua leʻa, a me nā piʻi.
- E hoʻolālā i nā keiki i kahiʻano likeʻole - e pāʻani i ka pāʻani, e hoʻokuʻu i kahiʻike, e hele i ka hale kiʻiʻoniʻoni, i ka hīmeni aiʻole ka zoo. E loaʻa i nā keiki ka nui o nā leʻaleʻa maikaʻi a loaʻa iā lākou nā kumuhana no ke kūkākūkāʻana.
- Mai'ōleloʻoe "ʻaʻole" inā makemake ka keiki e kono i kekahi o kona mau hoaaloha e kipa. E waiho i waena o nā papa mele ma laila e pono ai nā mea e leʻaleʻa a makemake ai e pāʻani me nā hoaaloha.
Mai noho a palaua e hoʻokomo i nā pāʻani a nā keiki, akāʻaʻoleʻoe e lawe i kahi kūlana kiʻekiʻe. - Mai kēlā manawa aku kēia manawa, e noi aku i ke keiki pehea ka mea me kona mau hoaaloha. Ma ke kamaʻilioʻana, mahalo mau i nā keiki i kohoʻia e kāu pēpē he mau hoaaloha, eʻikeʻo ia i kāu kākoʻo a me kouʻaeʻana.
- E waiho i ka'ākau e koho i nā hoaaloha no ke keiki pono'ī. Mai hōʻano hou i nā mea i kūpono i kou manaʻo, ma kēia mea e hōʻeuʻeu i ka makemake o ke keiki e pilikia.
E aʻo aku i kāu keiki e lilo i mau hoaaloha, no ka mea, he mau hoa aloha maoli nō kekahi mau hoaaloha o ka wā'ōpio ma ko kākou ola a ma kēia mua aku.