No kekahi poʻe, e'ōlelo ana "no" hiki ke paʻakikī loa. ʻO ka hana kūpono e hōʻino ai i kekahi kanaka a me kekahi mea like paha, eʻae like au i ka wā e makemake ai wau e hōʻole. He kūponoʻole iāʻoe iho. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole pono ke kanaka e lilo i mea palekana, akā e noʻonoʻo ana iāʻoe iho a aloha nui iāʻoe iho . No laila, ponoʻoe eʻike i ka'ōlelo "no" a hana i ka wā e makemake maoliʻoe e'ōlelo "no", waiho i kou mau makemake a me kou mau makemake ma mua o nā malihini, inā hiki ke hanaʻia kēia me kaʻikeʻole o kaʻike.
Pehea e aʻo ai e hōʻole a'ōlelo "no"?
He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo i ka paʻakikī ka mea maʻamau. ʻAʻole loa i kahi manawa ka manawa e komo ai i ka hana a kekahi mea'ē aʻe, ma hope o ka loaʻaʻana o kēlā me kēia kanaka i ke ola a me nā mea i kū ma kahi mua. No laila, mai hopohopo e'ōlelo "no", e noʻonoʻo ana i kēiaʻano hiki iāʻoe ke hōʻino i ke kanaka. ʻO kēia ka hana mua i kaʻikeʻana i ka hōʻoleʻana i nā kānaka.
Eia hou he mea pono e maopopo, pehea e pono ai ke hoole. ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā'ōlelo waleʻoe "ʻaʻole", hiki i ke kanaka ke huhū maoli. Akā inā he lohi a mahalo ka hōʻoleʻana,ʻaʻohe mea hihia. No ka nui o kāu mahele, hiki iāʻoe ke noho mālie. ʻO kekahi o nāʻano maʻamau o ka hōʻole hōʻole: "makemake au, akā ..." He mea nuiʻaʻole e komo i loko o nā hōʻailona wehewehe no ke kumu i hikiʻole ai iāʻoe ke hoʻokō i ka noi. Hiki iāʻoe ke kuhikuhi wale i nā mea hana a me nā mea pilikia. Eia kekahi, he koho, hiki ke hoʻohanaʻia kēiaʻano o ka hōʻoleʻana. "He mea aloha nui, akāʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu kēia mea, no lailaʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke kōkua." Inā hāʻawiʻiaʻoe i kahi hihia i kūʻole i kou mākaukau, a laila, mai makaʻuʻoe e'ōlelo i kēia.
Ma keʻano laulā,ʻo ka mea nui loa i kaʻike e hōʻole i kā lākou noiʻana,ʻo ia ka hoʻomaopopoʻanaʻaʻole ka hōʻino a hōʻoleʻole, aʻo kekahi manawa he mea e pono ai. ʻO kēlā me kēia kanaka no kona ola e lohe ana i ka nui o nā hemahema a he mea maʻalahi kēia.