ʻO ka helehelena o kahi keiki hopeʻelua he mea hauʻoli nui ia no nā mākua. Manaʻo kekahi mau kāne ma keʻano he pono e loaʻa ka lua o ke pēpē i ka wā e hele mua ai ke kula, a makemake kekahi i kaʻilikai,ʻo ke kolu o ka hoʻopauʻiaʻana o kaʻohana e hanaʻia ma muli o ka hoʻolālāʻana. I kekahi manawa, makemake mau nā mākua i ka hana i nā meaʻoluʻolu a maikaʻi loa no kā lākou mau keiki.
I ko mākou manawa,ʻaʻole hiki i nāʻohana'ōpio ke haʻanui i kona hale pono'ī a iʻole kahi lumi nui nui. Ua hoʻoponoponoʻia ka hale, e like me nāʻikepili, ma lalo o ka hapakolu o nāʻohana. No laila, i ka manawa eʻikeʻia ai kahi keiki'ē aʻe, nui nāʻohana e hoʻopilikia i ka pilikia o keʻano e hoʻolālā ai i kahi lumi o kahi keiki no nā keikiʻelua.
Nā pōmaikaʻi o kahi lumi keiki no nā keikiʻelua
ʻO nā keiki i piha i ka makahiki 3 a hiki i 6 makahiki, e like me ke kānāwai, hōʻike i ka makemake nui e noho i kahi lumi hoʻokahi. Loaʻa kēia ma keʻano o nā keiki i kahi maikaʻi i kekahi i kekahi,ʻoiai inā he paio ma waena o lākou. ʻAʻole pono nā keiki, ma keʻano he kūʻokoʻa, akā ma kahi hui. ʻO ke kākoʻoʻana i kahi kaikunāne a kaikuahine paha he ala kūpono e pili ana i ka ulu pihaʻana a me ke kūlike o ke keiki. No laila,ʻaʻohe kūpono i nā mākua ke hoʻonohonoho i nā keiki ma nā lumi likeʻole,ʻoiai inā he manawa kūpono kēlā. Ināʻelua hale hoʻolālā o ke keʻena, kahi e hiki ai iāʻoe ke hoʻolālā i nā keiki,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e hoʻolilo i kekahi o lāua i kahi lumi moe, aʻo kekahi - kahi lumi pāʻani.
ʻO kahi piha o nā keiki maʻamau no nā keikiʻelua o ka wahine'ē aʻe he hiki wale nō i ka 10-11 makahiki. Ma hope o kēia, pono e hoʻoneʻe a wehewehe paha ke kaikunāne i ko lāua lumi iʻelua mau wahi likeʻole. No laila, he mea nui e hāʻawi i nā keiki i ka manawa e hoʻolālā ai i ko lākou wā kamaliʻi, ma kahi lumi hoʻokahi. ʻO kahi lumi o nā keiki no nā keiki kāneʻelua e hiki ai ke hōʻemi i ke kaikunāne a me ke kaikuahine, e maʻalahi ana i kekahi i kekahi me ke kuleana.
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ʻO kahi lumi lumi o nā keiki no nā keikikāneʻelua
Ināʻaʻohe keʻano o nā kaikunāne ma mua o 3 mau makahiki, e poina koke ke keiki hānau mua,ʻoiaiʻo ia e noho hoʻokahi ana i loko o kona lumi. I ka manawa mua, ma keʻano, e hōʻike mai ana ke keiki makua i kona huhū, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia ke mea nona ka lumi. Akāʻo ka hopena, e hoʻohanaʻia ke keiki i ka mea hou o nā mea.
Inā nui kaʻokoʻa o nā makahiki i nā keiki, eʻoi aku ka ikaika o ka makemakeʻole o ke keiki hānau. Ma kēiaʻano, pono nā mākua e kamaʻilio me kaʻelemakule a hōʻoia iā ia ua nuiʻo ia a naʻauao, e mālama i ka meaʻuʻuku, a ma kēia manawa e lilo ana kona keʻena i kula no nā keikikāneʻelua. Aia kekahi manawa i ka manawa e lilo ai ke keiki hānau mua i mana maoli a me keʻano hoʻohālike no ka'ōpiopio.
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ʻO kahi lumi lumi o nā lumi no nā kaikamahineʻelua
I keʻano o nā kaikamāhine, uaʻano like keʻano. Me ka liʻiliʻi o keʻano liʻiliʻi, ua wikiwiki koke nā kaikamāhine i mau hoaaloha maikaʻi aʻaʻole lākou e hōʻike i ko lākou ola ma nā lumi likeʻole. No laila,ʻo ka hopena maikaʻi loaʻo ia kahi lumi lumi o nā keiki no nā kaikamahineʻelua.
Me ka nui o ka makahiki, he mea nui ka manaʻo o kahi keiki makua. Inā ua hiki mua ke kaikamahine mua i nā makahiki o ka hoʻololiʻana, a laila aia kekahi manawa i kahi makemake e noho hoʻokahi. I kēia manawa,ʻo ka kaikaina wale nō ka mea e pale aku iā ia.
Mālama nā mākua o nā keiki i ka nui o nā makahiki i nā hemahema o kēlā me kēia keiki. He mea nui eʻole e hoʻolilo i kahi keiki hānau mua i wahine no kahi keiki'ōpio e kū'ē i kona makemake. Hiki i kēia ke hoʻonāukiuki i waena o nā keiki.
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Noho kaʻelua aʻekolu mau keiki ma kahi lumi hoʻokahi e aʻo ai iā lākou e launa me kekahi i kekahi a pale i nā paio me ka hanaʻole a nā mākua. ʻO nā keiki e moe ana ma kahi lumi hoʻokahi,ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomāʻewaʻewaʻia e nā moeʻuhane, ua lilo lākou i mea kūʻokoʻa.
ʻO ka ola hui e hiki ai ke hoʻololi i nā pilikia e pili ana i ka hānaiʻana o nā keiki. Aʻo nā keiki hoʻi, huli lākou i kā lākou hoa pili loa no ke ola!