ʻO ka hoʻomaopopoʻana i nā mea i moeʻia e nā keikiʻaʻole he mea maʻalahi, no ka mea, he nui nā helu e pono e mālamaʻia i ka unuhiʻana.
ʻO ke kumu no ka ho'ākākaʻana o ka hiamoe ua laweʻia i kēlā mau manawa:
- He keiki i loko o kaʻohana. Inā mālama nā makua i ka mauna o nā keiki i kēlā me kēia lā,ʻaʻohe mea kūpono i ka moeʻuhane. Eia kekahi ma nāʻike e pili ana i kā lākou loaʻa aiʻole he pilikia. No ka moeʻana i kahi moe e pili ana i nā mea a nā keiki, inā he mea'ē wale ia, hoʻololi i nā manaʻoʻokoʻa , aʻaʻohe mea e pono ai no ka hopena.
- ʻO ka moeʻuhane pili i nā mea a nā keiki. Inā heʻawaʻole, a laila, hiki paha, e hoʻokō kokeʻia anaʻoe e hana i kahi mea āu e makemakeʻole ai. ʻO ka manaʻo kūpono i nā mea a nā keiki e hiki ai ke loaʻa ka hauʻoli a me nā hana maikaʻi.
- He aha kā lākou hana me nā mea a nā keiki.
Ma muli o kēia, eʻano like nā unuhi.
No ke aha ka moeʻuhane no ka kūʻaiʻana i nā mea a nā keiki?
ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa, ua ho'ākākaʻia kēlā moeʻuhane e like me keʻano o ka hāpai i ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻAʻole hiki ke'ōlelo i keʻano o ka hāpai kino. Malia paha, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou i keʻano o kahi pēpē mai nā pili pili.
No ke aha mākou i moeʻuhane ai i nā mea liʻiliʻi o nā keiki?
ʻO ka manawa pinepine,ʻo nā mea a nā keiki ke makemake i ka makemake, a me ka noʻonoʻo nui . I kēia lā, hiki i nā keiki liʻiliʻi ke kuhikuhi i kahi hoʻomaka hou.
No ke aha mākou i moeʻuhane ai no nā mea hou o nā keiki?
ʻO ka moeʻuhane e pili ana i nā mea hou o nā keiki e mālamaʻia e like me ka moeʻuhane e pili ana i ka kūʻaiʻana i nā mea a nā keiki ʻO ka meaʻoi loa, he moeʻuhane kēia no ka hānauʻana. Akā, inā he pilikia ka wahine i ka hāpaiʻana, a noʻonoʻo mauʻo ia no ka pēpē, a lailaʻo ia moeʻuhane keʻano hoʻohālike o kona mau manaʻo.
No ke aha i hiamoe ai kaʻokiʻana i nā mea a nā keiki?
ʻO ka ho'ākāka nui loa o ka moeʻuhane e mālama i kēia moeʻuhane e like me ka moeʻuhane o ka'ōpū I kēia hihia, pono e noʻonoʻo i ka wai i holoiʻia ka holoi holoi. ʻO ka wai maʻemaʻe keʻano o ka hāpai maʻemaʻe a makemakeʻia. ʻO nā pilikia me ka holoiʻana, nāʻehu a me ka lepo e hoʻomaopopo i ka nui o ka'ōpū a iʻole e makemakeʻia.