ʻO ka mareʻana he hana ia, me ka hopohopoʻole, a ua hoʻoholo nā kaikamahine a pau e pili ana i kahi mare nani me kahi wahine maikaʻi. A iā lākou e noʻonoʻo pono ai iā lākou iho me ka nani, ua hoʻonāukiukiʻia nā kaikamahine e ka nīnau "ʻEhia makahiki e hiki ai iaʻu ke mare?" He mea makemake loa e haʻalele i ka hale i kahiʻaʻahu mare.
Aia kekahi mau hihia i ka wā e hālāwai ai ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine no ka nui o nā makahiki a makemake e male, no ka mea,ʻo kēlā mau pilina ka nīnau "ehia mau makahiki e hiki ai iāʻoe ke mare (male)?" Uaʻoi aku ka nui. No laila, ehia mau makahiki e hiki ke hoʻopili i ke keʻena reena?
ʻEhia makahiki i hiki ke mareʻia ma ke kānāwai?
E hoʻomaka paha, me Rūsia - pehea nā makahiki ma ke kānāwai e hiki ai iāʻoe ke mare ma Rusia? Hoʻomaopopo ka Family Code i ka makahiki mare (ka helu o nā makahiki ma hope iho o ka mareʻana o ke kanaka) no 18 mau makahiki. Akā inā he mau kumu pono, hiki iā lākou ke mare (akāʻaʻole naʻe lākou) heʻumikūmāono makahiki. Eia hou, inā he mau kūlana kūikawā i'ōleloʻia e nā kānāwai o ka Russian Federation, hiki ke hoʻopaʻaʻia kahi mare ma mua o ka pihaʻana o ka makahikiʻumikūmāono.
Ehia mau makahiki ma Ukraine e hiki ai iaʻu ke mare? Ma mua o kēia manawa, uaʻaeʻiaʻo ia e mare ma ka makahiki heʻumikumamāhiku, akāʻo ka Code Family Code o Ukraine i'Epelila 2012 ua hoʻololiʻia nā hoʻololi no ka hoʻouluʻana i ka makahiki male no nā wāhine. I kēia manawa, ua likeʻo ia me Rusia, 18 makahiki. Akā, hiki i ke kaikamahine (a male paha) ke loaʻa ka kuleana no ka mareʻana no nā makahiki he 16 i ka hoʻoholo a ka 'aha hoʻokolokolo ma ka hālāwaiʻana o ka male me ka wahine e makemake ana e male. ʻO mua,ʻo ka makahiki liʻiliʻi no ka maleʻana he 14 mau makahiki. Ua ho'ākākaʻia ka ho'ālaʻana o ka makahiki male male e nā mea kākau o ka pila e ho'āʻo ai e hoʻokumu i ka hanauna'ōpio i kahiʻano hopohopo a me ka pilina i ke kūkuluʻana o kaʻohana.
ʻO ka manawa hea e male ai?
Malia paha e makemake ana nā kaikamāhine e makemake i nā kaikamāhine ma hope o ko lākou mau poʻo, e aʻo ana e kali i ka lā hānau heʻumikumamāwalu, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe kūlana kūikawā a mahalo. A no ka mea, e ho'āʻo nā wāhineʻelemakule e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou, e'ōlelo anaʻaʻole he wahi e wikiwiki ai, akā, he manawa hou nō kāu e lawe ai i ka ola o kēiaʻohana nui me kahi puna nui. Loaʻa i kā lāua mau pono he pono pono'ī, akā he mea nui pahaʻaʻole i ka makahiki e hiki ai iāʻoe ke mare ma ke kānāwai, a inā ponoʻoe e hana. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, hikiʻole ka makahiki i ka mea nui, hiki i kahi wahine 30-makahiki ke hana i kahi'ōlohelohe,ʻaʻole loa ia eʻike i kāna kuleana e lawe ai ma luna ona ma ka mareʻana. A he mau hihia i ka wā he kaikamahine 16 makahiki a me kahi keiki hānai, a pili i ka hoʻokele waiwai, a me ka hauʻoli. ʻO nā mea a pau e pili ana i ke kanaka, he hoʻokahi makahiki ko mākou a pau i ka manawa e mare ai, heʻokoʻa.
Akā, pehea lā eʻike ai i kou pono pono'ī, ināʻo ka nīnau "ehia mau makahiki a nā wāhine e mare ai"ʻaʻole e hāpai i ka pale o ka hūnā? Aʻo wai ka mea i haʻi iāʻoe e ponoʻoe e nīnau i kekahi manaʻo o haʻi? Aia kekahi mau hanaʻino ma waena o nā wāhine "ʻAʻole au i male ma mua o ke 30 o kona makahiki, no lailaʻaʻohe mea i kūpono",ʻo ia ke kumu e holo ai nā kaikamahine i kahi keʻena hale kākau, e ho'āʻo ana e hopu i ka makahiki koʻikoʻi.
Inā hikiʻole i ka manaʻo o nā mea'ē aʻe ke lilo i mea aʻo i ka mea e pili ana i ka maleʻana, a laila ka hope hope loa no nā kauka. Ke'ōlelo nei lākouʻo ka makahiki kūpono loa no ka hānauʻana o ke keiki mua he 23-25 makahiki. No laila, ponoʻoe e ho'āʻo e hele ma laila ma nāʻano a pau? Inā pahaʻaʻole makemake nā keiki, inā pahaʻo ia ka mea e loaʻa ana,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e makemake e hoʻokani i ka hana a kahi mea aloha. I ka nīnauʻana, aia ka wā e mare ai, aʻo ka lāʻau lapaʻau he mea hikiʻole.
Ehia makahiki e hiki ai iā mākou ke kamaʻilio? ʻAʻole nā kiʻi i kaʻohana,ʻo ia nā manaʻo, nā makemake a me nā hana a nā kānakaʻelua i hoʻoholo e ola lōʻihi. ʻAʻole ia he pilikia i ka makahiki o kēia mau makahiki - 16 aiʻole 89.