ʻAʻoleʻoe iʻike pehea e like ai i kāu keiki aloha ma ke kula a manaʻo paha he hikiʻole kēia? E nānā i nā mea e pono e hanaʻia e hoʻolohe ai ke keiki iāʻoe, a maopopo iāʻoeʻaʻole he mea paʻakikī e like me ia.
Peheaʻoe e like me ke keiki āu i makemakeʻole ai?
He nui nā kamaliʻi e noʻonoʻo pehea e hiki ai iāʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i kahi keikikāne mai kahi papa aku āu i makemakeʻole ai. Mai noʻonoʻoʻaʻole hikiʻole i kēia mikiona, aʻo ia ke kumu. ʻO ka mea mua, ke maopopo neiʻoeʻaʻoleʻo ia makemake iāʻoe? He poʻe malihini nā kamaliʻi, no kekahi kumu i manaʻo lākou he mea hilahila ke haʻi aku i ke kaikamahine i ko lākou aloha. No laila, hikiʻole iā ia keʻaʻa e hoʻokokoke iāʻoe. ʻO ka lua, he koho e makemakeʻoleʻoe iā ia no ka meaʻaʻoleʻoe eʻae ia. Noho noho haʻahaʻaʻoe i kahi kihi,ʻaʻoleʻoe e launa pū me kekahi me ke kaniʻuhū malū i ke kumuhana o kāu hoʻohiwahiwa? A pehea lā eʻike ai a mahalo nuiʻo ia i kou nani? No laila, e hele i waho o kou pūpū a iho i lalo e hana.
Pehea wau eʻaʻahu ai eʻoluʻolu i kahi keiki?
ʻO ka mea mua e hana ai, e nānā i kouʻike. Ua like pū nā keikikāne me ka nānāʻana o ke kaikamahine i nā helehelena wahine - nā kapa holoʻokoʻa, nā lole nani a me nā kuʻekuʻe wāwae - hikiʻole ke kūpono i ka wāwae he nui, akā, e kūpono ke kuʻekuʻe wāwae. He nani nā'ōmaʻomaʻo o nā lole,ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka kohoʻana, he maka hoʻokahi nōʻoe i nā'ōmaʻa wai. E noʻonoʻo i ka mea e hiki mai i ke keiki. Hiki iāʻoe ke komo i nā kapa momona a pauʻole, nā kāmaʻa ma luna o nā wāʻeleʻele a me nā kīʻawe pākiki, e heleʻoe no "kāu keiki," akā,ʻaʻoleʻoe e nele i kēia? E mālama pono i ka nui a me ka maikaʻi o nā mea hana i hoʻohanaʻia. ʻO ka pōʻeleʻele puni o nā maka,ʻo ka papaʻeleʻele o ka mea mua ma ka maka, nā pāpālinaʻulaʻula a me nā lehelehe e'ālohilohi me nāʻala a pau o ke ānuenueʻaʻole loa i ka mea a nā keikikāne e like ai. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻohe mea e koi ana iāʻoe e penaʻole i ka pena a me he "polu polu", e hana pono wale.
He aha kaʻu e hana ai eʻoluʻolu i ke keiki?
Ua hoʻololiʻo ia i konaʻaʻahu, e like me ka hopena pono'ī? Ināʻae, a laila maikaʻi, hiki iāʻoe ke hele i ka papa aʻe. Ma mua wale nō ma mua o ka hana houʻana e lanakila i ke keiki āu e like ai, eʻikeʻoe he kanaka kūʻokoʻa ia, no ka meaʻaʻoleʻoe e makemake e pale i ka hauʻoli o kekahi.
- Uaʻikeʻoe, he'ōlelo kūikawā, pehea e hoʻoikaika ai nā kū'ē? Keʻano nui loa ia. Loaʻaʻole i ka poʻe i hikiʻole ke kamaʻilio i keʻano maʻamau, akā inā loaʻa iāʻoe kekahiʻanoʻokoʻa'ē aʻe, a laila, loaʻa iāʻoe nā kūlana a pau. Eia kekahi laʻana, inā makemakeʻoe i kahi keikikāne - he pupule nāwaliwali, me ka meaʻole i hala kekahi kapuahi, a laila paha e makemakeʻo ia i kahi kaikamahine haʻahaʻa a haʻahaʻa. Maʻaneʻi,ʻo ka makemake e pale a pale i kahi mea nāwaliwali e ala aʻe, a inā he wahi pilikino ka mea'ē aʻe, a laila e holomuaʻoe. Akā inā he "tihushnik kēia keiki," pono iā ia ke "haehae". Ke huāhuā nei nā kānaka kūpono a pau i nā kaikamāhine wiwoʻole a me nā makaʻuʻole, i makemakeʻo ia e pili pono iāʻoe.
- He aha kaʻu e hana ai eʻoluʻolu i ke keiki? ʻAʻohe mea maʻalahi - ponoʻoe eʻike pinepine i kona mau maka, i hiki iā ia keʻike iāʻoe. Akā, e makaʻala i ka hana maʻamau - e huli i mua o kona mau maka i ka manawa a pau. Pai nā keikikāne i ke kuokoa, a ināʻoe
e pale anaʻoe i ka oxygen iā ia me kāu aloha, a laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe e makemake iā ia ma mua o kahi lele hoʻonāukiuki. - Pehea e like ai ke keikikāne me ke hoa papa? Eʻike i kāu mea makemake i nā meaʻelua. Ināʻaʻole nāʻano kumuhana, e noi iā ia e pili i kekahi kumuhana a iʻole kekahi mea'ē aʻe e kōkua. I kēia manawa,ʻo ka mea nui,ʻo ka hoʻomakaʻana e kamaʻilio a lilo i mea maikaʻi i ka wā e kamaʻilio ai. No laila, mai poina e pili ana i kahi mea o ka holomua, e like me ka hilinaʻi. He nani, hoʻokipa a me ke kaikamahine palekana, he aha ka mea'ē aʻe e pono ai ke kanaka?
- Pehea e makemake ai i ke keikikāne ma ka pilina? ʻO nā'ōlelo aʻo mua a pau, pehea e like ai me ke keikikāne, inā maikaʻiʻoe ke kamaʻilio maʻamau. A pehea kou makemake e like me ke keikikāne inā kamaʻilio waleʻoe? Maanei, ponoʻoe e ho'āʻo e lilo i ke kumu, a,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻoluʻolu. Aʻo ka mea nui, he aha ka mea e kōkua iāʻoe - he haʻalulu kēia, akā, mai hoʻowahāwahā i ka mea hihia. He mea maikaʻi hoʻi ke hoʻolohe i ka heluheluʻana a me ke aʻoʻana i keʻano o ka hoʻonohonoho ponoʻana i ka makaʻala - 10 mau mīmani ma hope o kēlā me kēia hua'ōlelo - he mea'ē.